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A Self-Esteem Boost
July 23, 2010
Long-time readers of the Pearl of the Day know today's Pearl to be true, but a little reinforcement is a good thing. If you're new to the Pearl, this is a great time of the year to experience this message. Yesterday I walked into a meeting and one of the participants was about as unfriendly and dour as you will see. She was overweight, had some unfortunate facial pigmentation issues, and her personal presentation was not good. I very quickly attributed her attitude to a weakened self-esteem.
Here is what I did throughout the day to show her that I cared about her as a human being. Remember, the first principle of Outfluence is to focus on the needs of other people with whom you come into contact before focusing on your own needs. It can be as simple as acknowledging them with a few kind words and a nice smile. So the first thing that I did was stand, walk up to her, offer my hand and my smile and I introduced myself.
Throughout the day whenever she spoke or I had interaction with her directly I looked her in the eye, focused only on her and treated her as an equal. I respected her. I did my best to offer humor, most of it self-deprecating. By the end of our time together, I was able to coax a beautiful smile out of her that lit up her eyes. If she learns to lead with her appealing smile and sparkling eyes, her imperfections (which she will notice we all have) will give way to the light of her countenance.
Life signs – look for the opposite silent message in the signs. Where the outward sign says unfriendly, the silent sign may be poor self-esteem. That triggers the need for Outfluence.
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Although there is some debate on what creates a positive learning environment, most people would agree that a human being will learn best in a welcoming, respectful, patient, and inclusive environment. These fundamental elements are imperative in creating a positive learning environment. The responsibility of creating and fostering these elements ultimately falls to the teacher, public speaker, seminar leader, or coach. After all, it is this environment that surrounds and affects the teacher/speaker's message.The teacher/speaker must therefore inspire these elements of a positive learning environment through an inspiring performance. Inspired performance is a critical component to the delivery of a positive learning environment. Constant Messaging™ can be used strategically and sincerely to deliver inspiration. Just as when writing the text of a presentation, we must consider the audience. The message and the environment must match the audience. Listed below are few of the audiences that Oufluence addresses to help create a more positive learning environment. |
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