Pearl of the Day 
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A Self-Esteem Boost
July 23, 2010
Long-time readers of the Pearl of the Day know today's Pearl to be true, but a little reinforcement is a good thing. If you're new to the Pearl, this is a great time of the year to experience this message. Yesterday I walked into a meeting and one of the participants was about as unfriendly and dour as you will see. She was overweight, had some unfortunate facial pigmentation issues, and her personal presentation was not good. I very quickly attributed her attitude to a weakened self-esteem.
Here is what I did throughout the day to show her that I cared about her as a human being. Remember, the first principle of Outfluence is to focus on the needs of other people with whom you come into contact before focusing on your own needs. It can be as simple as acknowledging them with a few kind words and a nice smile. So the first thing that I did was stand, walk up to her, offer my hand and my smile and I introduced myself.
Throughout the day whenever she spoke or I had interaction with her directly I looked her in the eye, focused only on her and treated her as an equal. I respected her. I did my best to offer humor, most of it self-deprecating. By the end of our time together, I was able to coax a beautiful smile out of her that lit up her eyes. If she learns to lead with her appealing smile and sparkling eyes, her imperfections (which she will notice we all have) will give way to the light of her countenance.
Life signs – look for the opposite silent message in the signs. Where the outward sign says unfriendly, the silent sign may be poor self-esteem. That triggers the need for Outfluence.
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Dylene Cymraes |
Dylene Cymraes started facilitating and developing training while an Army wife in Europe in the 1980’s. As a community liaison, she delivered seminars and workshops on topics ranging from financial management and family reunion stress, to career progress through volunteerism. "Every person has a unique perspective and genius," she says. "Training should be designed to evoke that, so everyone benefits." Dylene joined the Outfluence team very early in its development. She is the Director of Training Systems. Dylene has worked with people of every age, from grade school children to senior citizens. She has created and taught curriculum based on family heritage, diversity, community building, communication, leadership and many other topics to help people develop individually and in teams. "Outfluence provides a perfect opportunity for people to grow, which is why I have passion for it," she says. "It’s more than just a trainable skill set. It’s a philosophy with deep and far ranging impact." Dylene lives in Westminster, Maryland with her husband Earl and three spoiled cats. She has four grown children, all of whom march to a very unique drummer. |
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