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A Self-Esteem Boost
July 23, 2010
Long-time readers of the Pearl of the Day know today's Pearl to be true, but a little reinforcement is a good thing. If you're new to the Pearl, this is a great time of the year to experience this message. Yesterday I walked into a meeting and one of the participants was about as unfriendly and dour as you will see. She was overweight, had some unfortunate facial pigmentation issues, and her personal presentation was not good. I very quickly attributed her attitude to a weakened self-esteem.
Here is what I did throughout the day to show her that I cared about her as a human being. Remember, the first principle of Outfluence is to focus on the needs of other people with whom you come into contact before focusing on your own needs. It can be as simple as acknowledging them with a few kind words and a nice smile. So the first thing that I did was stand, walk up to her, offer my hand and my smile and I introduced myself.
Throughout the day whenever she spoke or I had interaction with her directly I looked her in the eye, focused only on her and treated her as an equal. I respected her. I did my best to offer humor, most of it self-deprecating. By the end of our time together, I was able to coax a beautiful smile out of her that lit up her eyes. If she learns to lead with her appealing smile and sparkling eyes, her imperfections (which she will notice we all have) will give way to the light of her countenance.
Life signs – look for the opposite silent message in the signs. Where the outward sign says unfriendly, the silent sign may be poor self-esteem. That triggers the need for Outfluence.
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Al Betz |
Al is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of Outfluence, LLC. His business career began in 1968 at the age of 19. His career as a court reporter traveled the path from the Maryland Workers´ Compensation Commission to the United States District Court for the District of Maryland. In 1977, Al entered the freelance court reporting business. Al has a nationwide reputation as a realtime reporter, an author, and a leader in the court reporting world. Major legal matters he and his company participated in include the grand jury investigation of the Clinton Administration; trials involving Reagan Administration officials Deaver, Nofziger, Poindexter, and North; trials of former Washington, D.C. Mayor Marion Barry and former Maryland Governor Marvin Mandel; the divestiture trial of AT&T which resulted in the commencement of the telecommunications revolution; and the recent litigation involving alleged accounting fraud of Ernst & Young, WorldCom and Enron. As an author, he has interviewed and transcribed the stories of numerous subjects, including families of 9/11 victims in an effort to preserve their loved ones' life stories. His first book, Polishing the Pearl: The Art of Professional Performance is a guide for young professionals seeking inspiration and knowledge. Al credits his Outfluence approach to life and to business for enabling him to attract positive people to his life and to his business. His second book, titled Outfluence, The Better Way to Influence is available here in our store and at Amazon.com. |
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